The Christmas season is upon us, a time filled with festive cheer, bright lights, and a whirlwind of activity. But for many separated or divorced parents, Christmas can feel heavy with emotions, especially if this year looks different from the ones you imagined or hoped for.
As a divorce coach, McKenzie Friend and Mediator, I want to remind you that Christmas is about love, peace, and connection. It’s not bound to a single date on the calendar or the traditional image of a perfect family scene. This year, I encourage you to embrace the opportunity to create new traditions, celebrate in your own way, and focus on the deeper meaning of the season.
One Day Does Not Define the Holidays
It’s easy to feel like December 25th holds all the magic of the season, but the truth is, Christmas is a feeling, not a date. Whether your children are with you on Christmas Day or celebrating with their other parent, you can create your own special holiday moments on any day that works for your family.
Shift your focus from what you might be missing to what you can create. A "Christmas Eve" dinner on December 22nd or a "Boxing Day Christmas" filled with gifts and laughter can be just as magical. What matters most is the love you share, not the date on the calendar.
New Traditions, New Memories
Divorce often brings change, but it also opens the door to new traditions. Perhaps you’ll bake cookies in your pajamas, host a movie marathon, or take a winter walk to enjoy the crisp air and holiday lights. Involve your children in choosing these new traditions—they’ll love having a say in how your family celebrates.
These fresh customs become the threads that weave together the tapestry of your new life. Over time, these moments will be cherished, not because they were perfect, but because they were yours.
Navigating Time Without Your Children
Being apart from your children during the holidays is undeniably hard. It’s natural to feel a sense of loss or sadness. But remember, you are not alone. Lean on your friends and family for support. Surround yourself with people who uplift you and fill your heart with joy.
Host a festive gathering, volunteer in your community, or simply enjoy some much-needed rest and self-care. While these activities won’t replace the time spent with your children, they can help to bring warmth and light into your holiday season.
The True Spirit of Christmas
Christmas isn’t about perfect decorations, extravagant gifts, or even being together on a specific day. It’s about love, peace, and gratitude. By focusing on these values, you’ll teach your children a profound lesson: that family, joy, and celebration transcend the boundaries of time and circumstance.
So, if this Christmas feels different, embrace it as an opportunity to create something beautiful and new. Trust that your love for your children shines through every choice you make, and that love is the greatest gift of all.
From my heart to yours, I wish you a holiday season filled with peace, love, and the promise of brighter days ahead.
Support is available
Coaching and mentoring is available over the Christmas period but please book in advance whenever possible.
Warm regards, Amy Dixon
Divorce Coach, McKenzie Friend and Mediator
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